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Who is the Family Answer Man?

Jay Fitter is a licensed family therapist with 20 years experience and answers your questions on all relationships issues.

Why He Does it…

My father had a 3rd grade education, and my mother 5th grade. My childhood was spent in poverty, moving in and out of apartments and motels. Much of our food came from church donations and we had used clothing.

My father was verbally and physically abusive and died when I was sixteen. I had already been working to help support the family, but after he passed , I had to work full time. My parents were told by school administrators when I was in elementary school that I was going to be a drop out. I attended in excess of twenty schools, often not even remembering what state I was in. There was virtually no adult guidance through my childhood and teen tears, as a result I made a lot of poor choices.

When I became an adult, I decided that I didn’t want to pass this kind of life on to my children.

I have seen the positive changes that have occurred in parents, kids, and even hard core gang members in juvenile hall. I know that we can’t change the past, but we don’t have to repeat it either.

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Misunderstanding Our Kids:

Q. I need some advice. My almost 5yr old daughter not only has an anger problem but she hits me, throws things throws fits and whines. She doesn't do it with anyone else only me and i don't let her get away with it. This all started when her dad left us a yr ago. She also has adhd and is very hyper. She wont focus on anything dor more than a minute. I dont know how to get her to stop doing these things. I'm at a loss as to what to do anymore. I feel like a failure as a mother. Please help

A. Some people would look at your child's behavior, and believe that these are typical temper tantrums. One of the indications would be that this behavior only occurs with you, and not other adults.
In my opinion, there is a greater likelihood that what your daughter is dealing with is abandonment issues. The fact that this behavior began when her father left is important. Also, she is young, and probably has limited ability to express feelings verbally. Then you have ADHD, which can make it difficult to focus, and organize thoughts. The result of all these ingredients is anger outbursts, and violent behavior. It is most likely only directed towards you, because she feels safe, and knows that you love her. I think for right now is important for you not to take this personally, but to recognize that your child is hurting from the loss of her father. My recommendation would be to seek out a child therapist to help your daughter grieve the loss of her father in a more productive way. This person should also be able to help you with strategies to work through this difficult situation with your daughter.

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